Couples in Florida who are getting a divorce may have one extra hurdle to overcome if they have a kid. This hurdle takes the form of the question, “how do I tell my child that their parents are getting a divorce?” It’s common question, and while answers may vary depending on individual situations and the people involved, there are still some basic tips that are similar across the board.
First of all, how parents break the news to their kid depends heavily on the child’s age. Today’s Parent provides a general guide for talking about divorce that is divided up by age. Older children will generally have a better understanding of the situation, while younger children may not get what’s happening or why. However, there’s one thing that should be stressed no matter how old or young the child is, and that’s that the child is not responsible for the divorce. Parents should take full responsibility for the divorce and work to make their child understand that they hold no fault in it whatsoever.
Psychology Today also has tips for bringing up the topic sensitively. This includes telling all children instead of just laying the burden on the eldest child, as well as allowing children to feel whatever emotion they feel in immediate response to the news. Giving honest answers to any questions they may have is also of utmost importance, and transparency is generally considered a good route to go.
Divorce will almost always be difficult for children to go through. Understand that it will likely be a traumatic event in some ways no matter how it’s brought up, and work to ensure that additional damage isn’t inflicted.